You can never assume that someone is giving consent. The safest way to give (and get) consent is simply to ask. That way, there is no confusion, and both people are 100% sure that they agree to taking part in whatever it may be….kissing, touching, cuddling, foreplay or sex. The main thing to remember is: anything other than a clear yes, is a NO!
Also, just because you or the other person has consented to one behaviour, (like kissing) that does not mean that there is consent for anything else (like sexual touching). And, even if you have given consent, you can always take it back at any stage and decide you don’t want to go any further. Everyone is free to change their mind! Maybe you consented to doing something last week with someone, but that does not mean you automatically consent to the same thing this week. You can ALWAYS say no if you’re not feeling it, and the person seeking consent must respect your decision.
So, even if someone is winking like crazy at you…
or being seriously flirtatious…
…that does NOT mean they are saying it is OK for you to assume they are up for doing anything.
Never assume that a ‘no’ is someone playing ‘hard to get’ or being a ‘tease’.
No means no!