Masturbation 2019-08-29T14:36:39+00:00

What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is the act of touching one’s own body to become aroused and get a feeling of pleasure, often by stimulating your genitals. There are many different words used for masturbation, such as ‘jacking/jerking off’, ‘wanking’, ‘flicking the bean’, ‘fingering oneself’ or ‘self-love’, and these often end in orgasm, but not always!

How Do I Masturbate?

  • Girls and anyone with the following body parts often touch the clitoris, inner or outer labia, the vaginal opening, the anus and the space in between these two openings (the perineum).
  • Some people void directly stimulating the clitoris, as this can feel very intense, but prefer to touch spots around it. Some may also add sex toys, such as vibrators, to the experience. They may also use lubricant or lotions to enhance the pleasurable sensations and prevent uncomfortable friction and irritation.
  • Boys and anyone with the following body parts may stimulate the penis, scrotum, perineum, and/or anus, by massaging, rubbing or stroking, and can also use sex toys and lubricant. Sex toys need to be kept clean in order for them to be safe to use, so make sure you read the directions on the packaging. Using any kind of sex toy is completely optional – it is your own personal choice. It is essential that you are comfortable and not hurting yourself in any way when masturbating – it should only ever feel good!
  • You may also like to touch other sensitive areas of your body. There are nerve endings that can create ‘erogenous zones’ all over the body. An erogenous zone is an area of the body that is more sensitive than usual, and it can create a sexual response such as relaxation, thoughts of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal and orgasm. These may be unique to each person, but common erogenous zones include breasts, nipples, thighs, and neck to name a few.
  • It is normal and healthy to have sexual fantasies, as they add to sexual arousal and excitement. People of all genders may like to fantasise using erotic stories, images or videos (see our Porn section) or just using their imagination!

When should I start masturbating?

It is important to know that you NEVER have to masturbate if you don’t want to.

Also, there is no right or wrong age to start. Each person will be different. You can masturbate whether you have a sexual partner or not. Children often begin touching themselves long before puberty, as their bodies grow and change. Babies have even been observed touching their genitals in the womb! It is often a source of self-comfort and self-soothing, as well as feeling nice. Many children begin masturbating as they grow and explore their changing bodies. As they grow into their teenage years and beyond, masturbating becomes a more sexual act.

It is very important that children know that masturbating is normal and will not harm them. They should know that it is not something to be ashamed of, but that they need to do so in private.

Why do people masturbate?

Masturbation can improve our physical, mental and sexual health, and help to create healthy sexual relationships. Here are a few amazing things that masturbation can do…

  • relieve sexual tension and reduce stress

  • achieve sexual pleasure

  • does the above when partners are unavailable

  • help the person relax

  • create a sense of well-being

  • physically and emotionally improves sex with partners

  • enhances comfort and confidence during sex

  • help people find out what they like and don’t like, where they enjoy being touched and stimulated

  • increase the ability to have orgasms (yay!)

  • improve relationship and sexual satisfaction

  • improve sleep

  • enhance self-esteem and improve body image

  • help to relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension

  • strengthen muscle tone in the pelvic and anal areas